Youth and Young Adult Ministry / Confirmation

How to contact us:

Pat Haviland, Youth & Young Adult Ministry / Confirmation

Phone: 847-541-1450 ext 234, Email:

Youth Ministry

Dear Saint Mary Families, during this Coronavirus pandemic, our "on site" ministry opportunities have either been canceled, postponed or have strict guidelines to continue.

Our Primary means of communication will be through an email / text service called flocknote. You may register by CLICKING HERE. There are 3 groups you may join, "What's Happening Around Saint Mary" and "Word on Fire - Engage"and "Saint Mary High School Youth Ministry". The first is a stream of up to date information and the second is a daily reflection to help form and guide our hearts and the last is ministry information for our high school students and their families. Below are a few examples of how this will effect our community.

1) All Public Liturgies have been suspended until further notice.

2) The Saint Mary Parish Office will also be closed. We will respond to voice messages and emails

3) All Youth Ministry, Confirmation and Religious Education events are on hold

4) The Saint Vincent dePaul Food Pantry will be open by appointment and as communicated through flocknote or the parish bulletin (which is also online - see above for the parish website)

Know that we are here to pray for and serve you in any way we can. If you have questions, concerns or needs, please don't hesitate to ask.

In this section there is a listing of Youth Ministry opportunities including social, service, retreats and discipleship events. These include both middle school and high school opportunities / please click on the various events to confirm who it is for.

Team Spirit is an amazing opportunity for middle school and high school students that mixes serving those in need and sports.

Please RSVP / Training-Orientation Sessions

When are the Sessions: TBA

Where: Symphony, 150 N. Weiland Rd, Buffalo Grove

Please register for LHSVS Sessions:

Program Description:

In 2007, Team Spirit Institute was awarded a most generous grant from the Washington Square Health Foundation to design and launch a sports-themed visiting the sick training program for youth.

Twelve years later, the Lifting the Human Spirit by Visiting the Sick (LHSVS) program is still thriving, having trained over 400 youth and lifted the spirits of a countless number of healthcare patients. Participation in LHSVS has impacted upon the lives of all of our participants. Some of our youth have been inspired to pursue careers in medicine, nursing, physical therapy, social work and education.

To continue to enhance LHSVS, we need your (non-financial) support::

This is how you can help:

(1) Recommend the program to compassionate 12-18 year-olds;.

(2) Share any contact info that you may have for Celebrity Sports Stars (i.e., sports figures - - athletes, coaches, journalists, team owners, etc) who are happy to donate their time to inspire youth and lift the spirits of healthcare patients).

High School Forum

Forum: is our weekly High School gym, social time, prayer, games, teen related topics, small groups and fun competition

Most Wednesdays ~ no sign up or cost

Jan. 22 / No Forum (helping with 7-8th grade Faith and Fun Night)

Jan. 29: Forum Open Gym with mission trip meeting before / 6PM

Feb. 5 / No Forum (helping with 7-8th grade Faith and Fun Night

Friends are welcome ~ Hope to see you!

Transformation Tuesday

This is a fun and faithful opportunity for our 7 & 8th graders to meet after school to have some fun, meet and make friends and grow in our faith.

This is a 5 week series...Come as you can.

We have finished out fall series and will begin again on February 18th (Tuesdays) and end on Sunday (Just this one day is not on Tues), March 15 with an awesome trip to an awsome multi-parish music event / "Something Else" at Prince of Peace Parish...see below for more informtion

To the left is an awesome game of gaga ball!

Thanks to all who came this Fall!!

Attention all 7-8th graders, join us for a fun, sports oriented, and impacting evening with games, activities, an inspiring talk, video clips and snacks. Bring your friends! Wednesday, February 5 / 6:30-8:30 / Activity Center

Join us for a fun and interactive evening, just for you and your friends! Games, Skits, Small Groups, an impacting talk on knowing God and living our faith in a pretty busy and crazy Roller Coaster world....and of course Snacks! Sunday, January 26, 6:30-8:30 in the Activity Center. We are also in need of some snacks and parent help...see sign ups below. Thank you in advance.

We are expanding our Peer Ministry Teams to include both Confirmation and Outreach Peer Ministry teams. The Confirmation team will focus on the Sunday evening One 8 Sessions, service and Confirmation Retreat. The Outreach Team will focus on the Youth Ministry evenings, like the Faith and Fun Nights and will help with the Confirmandi / Sponsor Retreat and a few high school events. Please see the application as well as the calendar for the year / below.

Retreat Opportunity

St. Mary's is partnering with St Colette (Rolling Meadows), Our Lady of the Wayside (Arlington Heights) and St John the Evangelist (Streamwood) for this impacting retreat opportunity.

This is open to Junior and Seniors.

So, Why should you go / encourage your children to go.....

To Parents: Kairos, the Lord’s time, is a Christian experience of prayer and reflection run by a team of adults and students. This is a rare time in a teen’s life to step back from stress and pressure to gain some perspective and insight on what’s important in their lives, all in a safe and fun environment.

To the Teens:

Why? This is the question you should really ask!

Why should I spend time reflecting on my life at a retreat?

It is hard to know until you have tried. Maybe you are scared about going off to college. Maybe you are trying to decide if you want to go to college. Maybe you are searching. Maybe you are stressed and distracted. Maybe you don’t know if God really cares. Maybe you need time away to reflect and re-energize.

There are so many reasons those who have already gone on Kairos could give you about why you should go, but first you have to choose to trust them.

Thousands of teens go on Kairos each year. They go and discover who they really are and how they want to live. So clear your school, sports, work schedules NOW!

They come for their own reasons. All leave changed.

Be Bold and Courageous, Take a Chance!!

Info meeting for Mission trip: Wednesday, January 29 from 6-6:30 in the parish office youth room. This is open to parents, chaperones and participants!

It seems a long way off, with this cold weather and snow! We are organizing a mission trip for next summer in July 2020. We are heading to a nearby, Aurora, Illinois. We will be going to St. Joseph's parish and will partner up with their pastor, Fr. Matt McMorrow. Most recently he was the pastor of the Neumann Catholic Student Center at NIU. He is also a long time friend of our family.

So what will we do? We will hook in with various area social service agencies as well as help at St. Joseph parish. Groups we would connect with are: food pantries, homeless shelter, nursing homes, area parishioners in need, the food bank and nursing homes, etc... We will also help with painting, minor construction and deconstruction and maybe even some yard-work.

This will be a fast paced and interactive week with opportunities for prayer, friends, community, sharing, fun, Mass and some sweat! We will also organize a fun 1/2 day off to blow off some steam too!

We are also in need of parent / adults to join us to help drive and chaperon.

What is the age for going: This trip is open to incoming freshman through college age students.

Mission trips are amazing and impacting opportunities to have a lot of fun, grow in friendship, serve others, grow in our faith and watch God work through our group and those we help out.

When are we going: To allow for the best opportunity to go, I want to find out who is interested and see what dates work best. Fr. Matt is pretty flexible too.

We will be having an information evening on Wednesday, January 29th from 6-6:30 in the parish office, for all those interested in the trip. Friends are welcome...they do not have to be members of St. Mary.

We have a series of 3 Faith and Fun Night Events for our middle school / confirmation group and a 6th grade event. These are high energy evenings with games, small groups and impacting content. I am looking for about a dozen high schoolers to help with these evenings. Our first event is on December 15th from 6-8:30. The others are on January 22 and February 5th. You do not have to be at every one. We will have a prep meeting or two leading up to the event. We also have a 6th grade event on January 26. These are all from 6:30-8:30 (except for the December 15 event).

Please see the link below for further information and permission slip

Young Adult Ministry!

Eucharistic Adoration and Culver's / Wednesday’s from 8-9pm Marytown / followed by socializing at

Culver's (803 E Park Ave)

Further Out / Summer 2020:

Summer 2020 Mission Trip Opportunity


You will hear a lot of things about the Sacrament of Confirmation over your two years of prep...some parts sound more official and others are more about experience. Our fervent hope is that you not just learn about Jesus and His church, but Know Him personally. Throughout your time of preparation, along with our adult and teen leaders, you will have an opportunity to encounter your faith through small groups, large groups, inspiring talks, discussion, games, team building, retreats, service, music, prayer, food!, Reconciliation and Mass. You will be able to grow in friendship with those around you, inspiring each other to grow in holiness and discipleship.

As the catechism states:

Please take a look below and click on the various links to get a fuller picture of our preparation for the Sacrament of Confirmation including registration, expectations, a calendar and a letter of invitation. As you have heard before, "You get out of it, what you put into it"....the same applies here. Along with the powerful guidance of the Holy Spirit, the most important part we need is you! If you have further questions, please feel free to call the parish office.

As per the Archdiocese, our preparation for the Sacrament of Confirmation is a two year process, typically beginning in the 7th grade, leading to the celebration of the Sacrament in the spring of 8th grade. If you are in high school and have been registered in religious education or catholic school, you may also register at this time. If you have taken a break from your religious education preparation or are in need of other Sacraments, please call the religious educations office to get started.

We are in the process of Registering for our year 1 Confirmandi 2020-2021. This is a two year process, that typically begins in 7th grade, but includes those through high school age. Please see the links below to register and for a payment link (

Here is a link to the Online Registration Form

Here is a link for tuition payment

Intro Letter for registration of Year 1 Confirmandi 2020-2021

Service and Youth Ministry Events Record Sheets

Seeds of Faith Form / Year 2 (service / youth ministry)

Seeds of Faith Form / Year 1 (service / youth ministry)

Registration and Financial Forms:

Financial Records Sheet

RE Registration Form

Registration for SMS families

FACTS Tuition Link

-You must register though Facts...they generate invoices and accept payments for our Religious Education and Confirmation Programs